Identity Crisis

Well, I’m definitely not the first blogger to say this recently – in fact, there’s been a bit of an onslaught in the last month. And I reckon that even many of those who haven’t come out and said it, are probably thinking it.

I AM HAVING AN IDENTITY CRISIS. More specifically, a blogging identity crisis. I know exactly who I am in every other aspect of my life – but my blogging identity seems to have fallen by the wayside somewhere down the line and it’s really getting to me. This stupid little website has been such a massively important part of my life since March 2009, and for the majority of that time I’ve felt contented with my role in the community although there’s no denying that over the years, as more and more blogs have come into play some of us have felt less and less significant. But for whatever reason, for the last few months, my heart’s just not been in it like it should be.

I don’t know why exactly, and I don’t know what the catalyst is/was. I will admit here and now that I frequently harbour feelings of jealousy of other bloggers (don’t lie, we ALL do at some point or another). I wish, I wish, I wish I had more time to pour into this thing but some of us do work full time and can’t pay the bills with blogging so other things do need to take priority. I expect the genuine lack of time I’ve had to spend on blogging in the last month is contributing to my feelings of ennui about the whole thing.

I’m determined not to just give up and give in. My five year blogging anniversary is coming up in March, and I fully intend for my mojo to be back in full swing by that time. Wherever it’s gone and however I can find it, I need to concentrate on getting my love and excitement back because there’s plenty of evidence around that when a blogger isn’t feeling good about their site or themself, it really reflects in their content and I don’t want that.

I’m not going to churn out crap for the sake of it, and I’m not going to beat myself up for breaking my every-other-day-without-fail posting streak. I’m going to take it as it comes, and rekindle my enjoyment. I’m not going to start taking magazine-style photos just because that’s what everyone else is doing now. I’m going to do everything on my terms, in my own way.

In something which is now a completely oversaturated community, it’s very easy for many of us to feel lost in a gargantuan sea of bloggers, barely having time to stick our heads above water and breathe before being sucked back under, floudering and wondering what the whole bloody point even is. I know I’m not alone. While we all want to be riding the biggest waves, we’ve got to accept that at this stage we all have our place somewhere whether that is indeed at the top, somewhere in the mid-depths or down on the ocean floor. And if we’re not content with our places, either find a way to change it or just stop bloody doing it. Moaning about it does absolutely nothing.

Sooo… not really sure how to wrap this up. Just that, from now on, I’m going to blog when I damn well want to, and I’m going to write about whatever I want to, and I’m just going to get on with it and be grateful for the support I do have instead of sulking about not being top of the food chain.

THE END.

  • http://www.ladyofthelane.com/ Charlie

    I’ve been feeling this way for so long now. It’s a horrible feelings…I just keep plodding on, doing what I do and hope someone somewhere reads, hence my tweet to you yesterday!

    • http://donotrefreeze.com/ Do Not Refreeze

      I always read your posts! The golden oldies have to stick together, right?

      • http://www.ladyofthelane.com/ Charlie

        Too right… now where’s my zimmer frame?

        • http://donotrefreeze.com/ Do Not Refreeze

          Oh, sorry love, I’ve been using it as a hanging frame for my extensive collection of walking sticks.

  • http://www.sailorjennie.com Jennie May

    I hope that you manage to find what you’re looking for, I think posting whenever you’d like to is a jolly good idea and I for one am glad that you’re still around! 

    I had a bit of time feeling similarly and I kind of discovered that I don’t think I really do have a place within the community, by that I mean I feel a little on the outside looking in and that if I stopped tomorrow no one would really miss me, and then I found that I’m totally okay with that. I quite like sitting on the outskirts, taking a peek every so often at what’s going on around. I think that’s part of who I am and will be true for anything I choose to do in my life. That doesn’t mean what I’m doing is any less or more valuable that what anyone else is doing, it’s just my way. And if I did stop tomorrow and no one really missed me I’d be okay with that too, things change and move forward and I certainly wouldn’t like to leave a gap that couldn’t be filled, I much prefer the idea of someone doing it better than I did in the first place :) 

    You’re you and I love you for being you, no matter what!
    Xoxo

    • http://donotrefreeze.com/ Do Not Refreeze

      Oh Jennie, you always know exactly the right thing to say! Thank you for your lovely comment and I flippin’ love you too! xx

  • Sheenie Shaikh

    I don’t have time to read this! I have a day job to be getting on with!

    • http://donotrefreeze.com/ Do Not Refreeze

      Well, fack off then!

  • nail_loopy

    Aww, I love reading your blog, I hope your mojo comes back soon :)

    • http://donotrefreeze.com/ Do Not Refreeze

      Thank you so much :-) I’m sure it will, just need to find it and drag it out of its miserable little hole!

  • http://www.beautyliciouslove.com/ Jo

    I feel exactly the same gorgeous. You just summed it all up. And as for these magazine style photo’s…. Im hand swatching till I die!

    • http://donotrefreeze.com/ Do Not Refreeze

      LOL hand swatching till I die. I love you Jo!

      • http://www.beautyliciouslove.com/ Jo

        <3 xxxxx

  • BBFF

    I think all bloggers go through a stage of feeling exactly as you so eloquently describe. I stopped posting for a couple of months and it really helped me to take a break. Don’t be hard on yourself! Remember why you started blogging in the first place to try and recapture the spirit that was alive, the driving force for you to start writing the blog. I will still be here when you get back… x

  • edenblue

    Amen to this!

  • LilyLipstick

    Great post. You definitely have to do things on your own terms – I’ve been blogging for over 4 years and yours was one of the first blogs I followed! While I’ll never be a “big” blogger I still enjoy posting but definitely have periods when I feel completely uninspired – I think its like that with everything once the initial novelty wears off! Looking forward to your posts once your blogging mojo comes back (and hopefully that will be soon!) x

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